The thing is,as i've tried stating very very categorically and strongly before,that in my world,INFIDELITY or even the slightest -most remote likes,spells crime.Its as wrong as wrong can be at its own worst-most ugly-unethical-wrong days! Period.
BUT.
There is always a freaking but! It got me thinking,this but,of course,when one of my own "persons" found himself trapped in a viscous cycle of unfaithfulness.It was like i was seeing one "Unfaithful" after the other..with three different stories.The only common link between all those stories being this smarty pants' character..In the first story that i witnessed he played the male equivalent of the CHEATER (yes,i do have the liberty to call him whatver i want bluntly!)ie. Passion-seeking wife (Diane Lane).Subsequently in the second situation and the one,fyi,which i know at the back of my hand,he was the the CHEATED(not literally though) ie.loving husband (Richard Gere) in the sense that he was mistaken in love(if i may call it!) to a certain extent.And now,in the present scenario,he is the unconnected-neither the suffer-or nor the suffer-ee,the "other man" the one being the cause of the whole plot,the French bookseller (Olivier Martinez) who is the third end of the triangle.
Well so the story today,is about this third guy who,as circumstantial as it was,was still in fact the one whose only connection to this infidel business was the infidel girl he was dreaming off.As fate could have it.. it came a full circle..and Karma struck back..only to bite him in his posterior.And The cheater became the cheated became the boy-next-door-who-just-happens-to-like-the-girl! Ok. So its happened. A slip or two. But now what,who is to be blamed now? Off the two(we're not counting the third poor cheated guy.He'll have his own fidelity issues to sort out.) testosterone and estrogen high characters?The one who knowingly is breaking the trust of an innocent guy and betraying him?Or the one who knows the drill,who has literally been there-done that-repented later and knows fully well the wrong-ness and unethical-ness of the whole deal the girl has to offer?Will be right to break the bond which has been nurtured and held for years for something that still just qualifies as a mere fling?Are the intensities even comparable?
The crassness and crystal clearness of the situation is but,scary.It looks like a never-ending cycle of so many things.How much so ever we might justify a wrong and prove the best intentions behind it,the wrong still does not cease to be a wrong.If you could get up one day and decide to walk out of a long committed relationship,shattering someone's illusion of living in a wonderful world.Someone could get up and do that to you.And if that cycle continues,do you think there will still be something left of ..FAITH?of Belief? of Trust?Is it worth it at all??To break THAT bond of the long committed relationship to step into THIS which barely qualifies to be a fling?What is the guarantee that this all-mushy-all rosy-all romantic fling will last,if that long&strong commitment filled mature one couldn't? If one starts depending upon only detachment to substitute all the human emotions in the world or take it as a solution to overcome all the adversities we go through or deal with any pain that anyone causes us.. then i must tell you that there will certainly come a day when we will know not where to go,either there'll be no space for us detached celibate stone-cold super-humans on the Himalayas or no room for any of us cruel deranged zombies in the mental asylums!
May be it is best after all,to stick to your guns and hold your ground while you still can.Call a wrong a wrong and deal with it as it is.Giving into temptation and blaming it on the hormones is the act of the weak for the only trip you go to after that is that of the Guilt-land ! May be,just may be,it is best then to make a stitch in time and save the nine or as the B-52s sang, you should probably nip it the bud or or or..or may be just let the complication solve itself before you embark on your journey of the never never land with that "Unfaithful"-protagonist !Ask yourself a question or two..before rushing into it at god-speed.
Are u being taken for a ride?Or are you taking someone else for a ride?
Is it all about the short lived-fun filled-ride? Or about something more than just that?
Is this an affair to remember or a tale gone with the wind?
Is this the act of the wise or the otherwise?
Will this be love or fatal attraction?
How much so ever we might deny it or claim otherwise,physical and emotional fidelity go hand in hand,one cannot and will ever not exist without the other.Once the line is crossed in one,the other's bound to go out of the window at that very moment.Does anybody,in their right minds,begin a relationship by thinking of its end?Until of course,its an arrangement which is of that nature,which is bound to end,which comes with a convenient time limit and of course a very convenient attitude!If someone were to ask me and if i would be any of the three characters of our movie-of-the-day "UNFAITHFUL", i would have the way out ready for me for i wouldn't need to justify or bargain or rational with myself on any front to make that call for myself,as deep down i'd just know,that,infidelity by any other name,would be as wrong.And if at all,it is given any other name.. its only merchandising and packaging the same product in a different more appeal-able fashion!
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BUT.
There is always a freaking but! It got me thinking,this but,of course,when one of my own "persons" found himself trapped in a viscous cycle of unfaithfulness.It was like i was seeing one "Unfaithful" after the other..with three different stories.The only common link between all those stories being this smarty pants' character..In the first story that i witnessed he played the male equivalent of the CHEATER (yes,i do have the liberty to call him whatver i want bluntly!)ie. Passion-seeking wife (Diane Lane).Subsequently in the second situation and the one,fyi,which i know at the back of my hand,he was the the CHEATED(not literally though) ie.loving husband (Richard Gere) in the sense that he was mistaken in love(if i may call it!) to a certain extent.And now,in the present scenario,he is the unconnected-neither the suffer-or nor the suffer-ee,the "other man" the one being the cause of the whole plot,the French bookseller (Olivier Martinez) who is the third end of the triangle.
Well so the story today,is about this third guy who,as circumstantial as it was,was still in fact the one whose only connection to this infidel business was the infidel girl he was dreaming off.As fate could have it.. it came a full circle..and Karma struck back..only to bite him in his posterior.And The cheater became the cheated became the boy-next-door-who-just-happens-to-like-the-girl! Ok. So its happened. A slip or two. But now what,who is to be blamed now? Off the two(we're not counting the third poor cheated guy.He'll have his own fidelity issues to sort out.) testosterone and estrogen high characters?The one who knowingly is breaking the trust of an innocent guy and betraying him?Or the one who knows the drill,who has literally been there-done that-repented later and knows fully well the wrong-ness and unethical-ness of the whole deal the girl has to offer?Will be right to break the bond which has been nurtured and held for years for something that still just qualifies as a mere fling?Are the intensities even comparable?
The crassness and crystal clearness of the situation is but,scary.It looks like a never-ending cycle of so many things.How much so ever we might justify a wrong and prove the best intentions behind it,the wrong still does not cease to be a wrong.If you could get up one day and decide to walk out of a long committed relationship,shattering someone's illusion of living in a wonderful world.Someone could get up and do that to you.And if that cycle continues,do you think there will still be something left of ..FAITH?of Belief? of Trust?Is it worth it at all??To break THAT bond of the long committed relationship to step into THIS which barely qualifies to be a fling?What is the guarantee that this all-mushy-all rosy-all romantic fling will last,if that long&strong commitment filled mature one couldn't? If one starts depending upon only detachment to substitute all the human emotions in the world or take it as a solution to overcome all the adversities we go through or deal with any pain that anyone causes us.. then i must tell you that there will certainly come a day when we will know not where to go,either there'll be no space for us detached celibate stone-cold super-humans on the Himalayas or no room for any of us cruel deranged zombies in the mental asylums!
May be it is best after all,to stick to your guns and hold your ground while you still can.Call a wrong a wrong and deal with it as it is.Giving into temptation and blaming it on the hormones is the act of the weak for the only trip you go to after that is that of the Guilt-land ! May be,just may be,it is best then to make a stitch in time and save the nine or as the B-52s sang, you should probably nip it the bud or or or..or may be just let the complication solve itself before you embark on your journey of the never never land with that "Unfaithful"-protagonist !Ask yourself a question or two..before rushing into it at god-speed.
Are u being taken for a ride?Or are you taking someone else for a ride?
Is it all about the short lived-fun filled-ride? Or about something more than just that?
Is this an affair to remember or a tale gone with the wind?
Is this the act of the wise or the otherwise?
Will this be love or fatal attraction?
How much so ever we might deny it or claim otherwise,physical and emotional fidelity go hand in hand,one cannot and will ever not exist without the other.Once the line is crossed in one,the other's bound to go out of the window at that very moment.Does anybody,in their right minds,begin a relationship by thinking of its end?Until of course,its an arrangement which is of that nature,which is bound to end,which comes with a convenient time limit and of course a very convenient attitude!If someone were to ask me and if i would be any of the three characters of our movie-of-the-day "UNFAITHFUL", i would have the way out ready for me for i wouldn't need to justify or bargain or rational with myself on any front to make that call for myself,as deep down i'd just know,that,infidelity by any other name,would be as wrong.And if at all,it is given any other name.. its only merchandising and packaging the same product in a different more appeal-able fashion!
So when The Force above made us,he made sure that he puts in us all,those basic characteristics,irrespective of the fact whether we're a man or a woman or an animal. Owing to this we all face same problems and same dilemmas.
The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid!
When this is amply clear even to the hedgehogs,then why be it so difficult for us..humans to understand??Why can't we realize that if being with someone can be so harmful that it hurts our own self,then its best to take a step back!?! If even the porcupines can step back..why can't we????
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